Help

In the small village live a grandmother with her married grandchild and two lover animals.
One day in the evening day, grandmother went to a midwife's house hurriedly.
After she arrived there and facing with midwife herself. With nervous grandmother said, "I am sorry, please help me. With smiled midwife said, "Pardon me, can help you madam?"
"All right. Please come to my house right now." Without thinking twice, they left together quickly.
After they arrived at that house, the midwife asked, "Who will give birth, madam?" Without answered midwife's question, grandmother invited her to one of the room, than said, "My lover dog get difficult in giving birth, please help it."
With nervous and face pale midwife said, " I am sorry madam, I don't help it. I think your grandchild who give birth."
Grandmother looked disappointed.

How Important to Manage Time in Our Daily Life

Western people say that time is money. They use time well, have full discipline and responsibility in running a job. So, for career persons, "time is money". Everybody needs money. It shows that money takes an important role in everybody's life. Without having money, anybody can't buy anything. they consider that the importance of money is the same as the importance of time in their daily life.

Persons who neglect their time will cause unlucky things to them. For example : An architect who does not attend the meeting for planning a building for a hotel will have big loss though he has signed the contract. So, a student who can't manage her time because she does not schedule the activities will not pass her examination.

Therefore, managing time is important. All of us know that time can't be reviewed. So, when we face unlucky things because of our own fault, we shall regret later.

How do we manage our time in daily life? Make a schedule, after making a schedule, we must obey the schedule we make. It will help us. What time will we start a certain activity. The below are the right steps to manage time well.

1. Consider what kind of activities that we will do on the day.
2. Select those activities that we give priority.
3. Make a schedule, put the important activities in the list of the schedule.
4. Do our activities according to our schedule.
5. Avoid the activities that only waste our time. For example going some places without planning.
6. Avoid the habit of canceling an activity. Use our time effectively.
   

How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty

Are you chronically over - committed? Rushing from one task to another, with no time for your self? The key is to have a strong vision of what you want to say yes to. Then you'll feel far more confident saying no. Here practical steps to say no without feeling guilty.

1. Decide which activities you truly love. If you say focused on those things, then the next time you are asked to volunteer or get involved in a time- consuming activity, just check in. If the request takes you too far from what you are already dedicating yourself to, it's easier to say no.

2. Get over the need to be nice. Stop being afraid to disappoint people, and let go of the sense of importance you get from being indispensable.

3. Be clear when you say no. No means no. Ambiguities like "Maybe after the first of the year "or" Let me get back to you" leave the other person thinking you're actually interested, when you' re not.

4. Practice saying no in non-threatening situations, when you have little at stake and success is almost assured. Then you'll work up to resigning from the board of directors and stop signing up for committe work. Learn that carving out time for yourself and your family requires no reason and no apology.

5. Say no to requests for money in simple language and give no explanation. Contribute to the causes that excite you and complement your values. Then you'll feel confident saying, "My contributions have already been allocated this year."

6. Keep it simple. The most effective nos are the least complicated. The more details you supply, the more likely the other person will challenge you or try to change your mind.

7. Make a compromise while you're learning to say no. If you're asked to bring cookies to an event, opt for store-bought sweets instead of slaving away in the kitchen.

8. Re-evaluate your current commitments. You may have agreed to a long-term commitments months ago but now see that it's not working for you. Talk with the people involved and come up with an arrangement that works for everyone.


Source : hello magazine, 2006

Please don't sue me!

A local charity had never received a donation from the town's most successful lawyer. The director called to get a contribution.
" Our records show you make $500,000 a year, yet you haven't given a penny to charity," the director began. "Wouldn't you like to help the community?"
The lawyer replied, "Did your research show that my mother is ill, with medical bills several times her annual income?"
"Um, no,"said the director.
"Or that my brother is blind and unemployed?" The stricken director began to stammer and an apology.
" Or that my sister's husband died in accident," said the lawyer, his voice rising in indignation "leaving her penniless with three kids?"
The humiliated director said simply, "I had no idea."
"So, if I don't give any money to them, why would I give money to them, why would I give money to you?'

The Laws of Arguing

Not everyone can make a good argument, and not everyone can argue well. A good communication skill is required. What is the essence of argument and how to argue well? Below are some laws of arguing according to Gerry Spence:

1. Everyone is capable of making the winning argument.
2. Winning is getting what we want, which also means helping "others" get what they want.
3. Learn that words are a weapon and can be used hostilely in combat.
4. Know that there is always a "biological advantage" of delivering the truth.
5. Assault is not argument.
6. Use fear as an ally in public speaking or in argument. Learn to convert its energy.
7. Let emotions show and don't discourage passion.
8. Don't be blinded by brilliance.
9. Learn to speak with the body. The body sometimes speaks more powerfully than words.
10. Know that the enemy is not the person with whom we are engaged in a failing argument, but the vision within ourselves.

Source: Smart Stepz

To Overcome Lack of Blood

Everyone's body can lack of blood because gets sick, the bad health and so on. Sign a lack of blood are face looks pale, if sit over long as see stars, the body felt weak, lost spirit and often unconscious. To overcome lack of blood in our body follow the recipe below.

Prepared ingredients :
2 ( two ) eggs of free-range chicken.
1 ( one ) spoon of pure honey.
1 ( one ) handful of spinach leaves.
1 ( one ) lemon.

Direction for use.
Take eggs yolk from eggs of free-range chicken, put in the glass. Add pure honey, lemon juice mix well. Pound the spinach leaves, take its juice than pour with mixture above than stir well. Please drink the ingredients for 3 days continued. Surely the body felt fresh, healthy and comfortable. Next, to keep a good health of body, drink the ingredients once a week.
Please try it.

Dalam Kesendirian

Di malam hari......
Ku terbangun dari tidur
Ku buka jendela, hanya gelap gulita menghiasi malam
Kutatap langit dengan tebaran bintang - bintang
Kuhirup udara malam dalam - dalam, kehampaan makin terasa

Dalam kesendirianku....
Ku duduk termenung, ntah apa yang sedang kurenungkan
Dinginnya udara malam
Membalut sekujur tubuhku
Seakan tak peduli diriku

Gonggongan anjing memecah keheningan malam
Diiringi suara deritan dedaunan akibat terpaan angin kencang
Menghapus renungan dan lamunanku
Ku masih terpaku dalam kebisuan
Dan tak terasa begitu panjang kulewati malam ini.